One of the things I had heard about but never experienced until I moved to Miami was about the beauty standards they have here. As most of you know I work in the music industry and besides that I’m also a blogger/influencer. This in turn means that I spend a lot of my time at events with celebrities because that’s the industry I work in. Once I started attending, I slowly started realizing what the beauty standards were. I do need to clarify that I am in no way saying Miami is the only city with beauty expectations. What I’m saying is that it is a city where a lot of importance and emphasis is given to your physical appearance more than in many other cities across the US. To be “beautiful” you have to be tall, skinny, nicely tanned, perfect boobs and perfect ass. You don’t have any or all? Plastic surgery is the answer. Also, don’t forget your face. No wrinkles, we must botox. You also need plumped lips so get some fillers injected. The list goes on and on. I mean the amount of surgeries I’ve seen on some 20 something year old girls is just sad. They look older than me and I’m not even in my 20s anymore. It was exhausting to see the same thing over and over and as much as I tried to remind myself how pretty we all really are without all of that, it did get me a few times. I would catch myself sometimes criticizing my body or my imperfections. Of course, not my hair or eyebrows because c’mon, they are pretty perfect the way they are lol. I also know I have a killer smile 🙂 It was just one of those things where you’d go to an event and everyone just seemed so perfect that it made you self-conscious about yourself. Of course you could tell many of them had gone through plastic surgery to achieve that look, but nonetheless they looked “perfect”. I struggled with that.
Another thing I struggled with was going to the beach or pool parties with these “perfect women” because they all look like models and well, that I am not. You can’t help but compare yourself and that’s what makes it worse. The “flaws” you see in yourself people rarely see them until you point them out so we must stop pointing them out. Also, not speaking in general because one should never speak in general, but have you guys spoken to some of these chicks?! They’re gorgeous and have the perfect body but some of them can’t even hold a proper conversation or their soul and personality is ugly. That’s when you realize what’s inside is what really counts. Your soul, your personality, your education, your morals, your values, your sense of humor, etc. That’s what makes you beautiful and no two people are the same which is what makes us so unique.
Society likes to dictate what the norm for beautiful is and if you don’t meet that then you’re ugly, but who is society to define what real beauty is, and why do we allow it by trying to fit these standards?! Love yourself for who you are and what you have to offer. Don’t let society dictate your beauty. We are ALL beautiful outside, and most importantly inside. How boring would this world be if we all looked the same? That’s essentially what society is telling us to be. We need to reject this kind of thinking and allow ourselves to be who we are without seeking anyone’s approval. Instead of focusing solely on our appearance, let’s feed our soul. Strive to be a beautiful person inside. Have more to offer than a pretty face and body. I’m in no way saying to let yourself go because you all know I’m not that person. I’m all about making yourself look better on the outside, I mean, manis, pedis, hair stylist, eyebrows, makeup, skin treatments, etc. I’m all for it, but what I mean is that you should be your own kind of pretty, not what society says is pretty. If you read Spanish, I highly encourage you to read my friend’s post about this same topic. It resonated with me and I absolutely loved it. I know you will, too.
In honor of this post, I share with you some pictures I took recently during a beach day with my friend. This is my first time taking pictures in a bathing suit. Of course, there’s some editing, but it’s normal editing that pictures require to make them look good, but the rest is all me.